Although I am currently the BS of a WAS, this isn't my first go round. Granted, thus time is MUCH different. I thought I'd share a little from our last seperation that this thread reminded me of and actually helped give myself a little advice for my current sitch.
Last time, he forced me out. I begged to come home and work on M for a month or so only to constantly hear that he didn't want me and that I should move on. When reading thus thread, I realized that was the turning point last time. I did GAL and really got to a point that although I loved my H, I didn't care. I cared about me. I found a great job (which I now regret giving up), began dating per his advice, and was ok with my M crumbling. I accepted it and moved on. Four months after forcing me out and three months after I really GAL, he was groveling. I did not come back for another two-three months. We were so happy (in love like in high school again) for years until I gave up my life and went back to being just wife, mom, and stat at home/work from home part-time for our failing business (which I had no say so in). I stopped GAL and now eight years later, here I am the BS of a WAS.
This thread made me see just how important it is in saving your M to really GAL. I DO NOT recommend dating someone else as I did though. Although he told me to and we were seperated, in his eyes (and in a way, my own) it was betrayal that I'll continue to have haunt us both forever. Once you GAL, don't stop once you've R. You'll just be like me and lose them again.
Now to hit the bed. Got a job fair to attend tomorrow to start my own GAL!
