"Forrest, less crazy, definitely. I am in more control of my reactions, something I was doing at work, with friends but wasnt good at with H. All this intro-analysis of wrong doings and mistakes, helped after all..."
They are not "wrong doings". They were learning how to use the right tool at the right time. Remember the "old" ones feel good in your hand. But.. the are very inefficient at getting the job done.
"He talked to his sis and BiL and was trying to talk to me about it and said I was defending BiL and that made him defend his sister which is something he doesnt want to do. I have a hard time being objective here."
This is reasonable.. expected and normal. The "emotion" behind the thought process's it what makes it a chance to change things. You even said the word "defend". Of course he will defend the sister. Blood is thick. You have to propose your words correctly. To you.. they are just 2 random people.. that you met on the street. To him he has had a "relationship" with one of them! My gut.. or my "crazy talk" suggests that you just be a friend to him in this.
"I would love to know what she is up to though..."
She wants your man. The less you make that apparent that you know that.. the better off you are.
"One thing we need to take care of is find time for just the two of us."
Make it so #1.
"He said he cant be doing this anymore. Unfortunately he is thinking of leaving the morning job which is more secure and keeping the evening one which pays more and has better insurance."
He said "I can't be doing this anymore." This indicates to me that "Life" is closing in some. I honestly think this is a good thing. But.. it could go bad. You seem to have some reservations about him leaving the AM job. Why? Yes.. I see the surface reasons.. but I need more info. Us DAM always go the more "secure" route. You know keeping the family safe and secure. The idea becomes.. by keeping the PM job is his "family" safe and secure?
And just so you know.. I hope all is well with your family. I don't comment on it much because it distracts me. Don't take it as a I don't care.
Now...
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
