I guess the thing I'm confused about is that if he keeps referring to it as your D, that to me sounds like he doesn't want it.
So why would he mind if there is a continuance?
If he does want the D than it is as much his as yours. You just happened to file first.
If you dismiss and he refiles what has that accomplished for either of you?
Will a paper either way, Married or Divorced, bring you closer together?
I feel for you tonight my friend.... the roller coaster for you is on the fast track tonight. Nothing you can do but hold on and wait for the next turn.
While I don't know how much consolation this is, but look how much you are learning and are now able to "see the tracks" so to speak. At least you know at some point the ride will slow a bit and you can take a breather, get that heart rate down and prepare for the next turn.
The only thing you can control is yourself. Sounds like there are some things that you identified tonight that you also need to work on. Use the time wisly and you will always be alright.
