H called and said that he wanted to take family to movies for family night or else go bowling. I said MIL was going to teach DSD and I to bowl, so he said "forget it, then." Another instance of him feeling I was controlling him, but I was just trying to share. I didn't pursue it, didn't explain myself, just made a mental note to be extra careful how I communicate in the future. I asked if it was going to be boys and girls separate again tonight, and he said, "it's family night, it should be the whole family." Not sure if that included me or he meant the two kids and him... but I acted as if and assumed me meant me as well.
When I got home from work, H shared a very good funny on youtube. We laughed and then he shared with DSD and we laughed again. It was nice to have us all laughing again. Something that brought H and I together, and keeps the family together is our sense of humor.
I noticed he was doing little things he knows annoy me. He put the toilet tissue upside down when replacing the roll. (It may have been DSD who did that, but she doesn't usually change the roll) I didn't say anything, just left it. (Only because when it's hung on the top, puppy can roll it all over the floor) It was only a big deal when puppy was young, she's over a year old now. He spoke with a pronounced New England accent. Things he thinks annoyed me, but really I just used to tease him about. DSD and DSS picked on his "accent" that suddenly appeared but he insisted that he always had - I said I liked it, it was cute, and defended him, saying they just never noticed before.
On the way to movies, H told me to drive a certain direction to see a car I've always liked parked on the side of the road for sale (Acura NSX) - he knows DSD loves cars, so it was probably for her.
Went to movies tonight for family night. H was conflicted. Touched me (sat next to me) a few times accidentally (sharing an arm rest) and then pulled away, then put back, and so on. I felt he was comfortable around me but not touching me, so I made sure to keep my distance.
Really good night all in all. I'm staying up to do some chores, hope he'll choose the bedroom tonight.
Thanks, Allen... Retro can be put off to another time. I appreciate you stating the obvious. There's that P word again, patience. I just lack it, perhaps that is what I am supposed to learn from this.
