I agree. This is where we were. This is what turned us around. When I FINALLY detached and actually didn't care anymore. And was okay with the situation and was done with the crap is when H got really really really scared!

He began thinking..."wait a minute, maybe this isn't what I want. All along I have made the decisions and was able to come and go as I pleased and could come home at any time and she would be there waiting for me....but now....(this is when I finally detached) I don't have the choice, I may have lost her for good, I'm not in the driver seat anymore, and if this is a possibility that I have lost her than its not what I want"

And he came home...

Its not turning into the WAS, its detaching and turning into the WAS comes naturally.

M: 31
H: 29
Married: 6 yrs
Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old





Separated: Sept. '09
Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09
Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10
Threatening to leave again: July,14