When did you decide to reconcile?

[Abbey]

*hugs*... I know the fear... ah wow... so many of us do, here.

Actually it's good that he didn't come back immediately I think. That 2 weeks gave him some time to recoup on his own and mourn the relationship with the OW.

You have to really decide... if he comes back... what are your rules. What will you absolutely need... and what will you not waiver on. He's got to be willing. There's no sense going back into this thing blind or hoping he'll do something that wasn't set out.

Be prepared for the ups and downs to continue. Even if you do start this road, ... and end up moving back in together,... it still takes time. Some of your resentment will bubble up later... some of your own loneliness etc will hit you 6 months from now when things are going smoothly. Then there's the trust issue. Still working on that myself actually. No answers there... cept you sound like a good "snooper" (smile, me too)... so trust but verify etc... ya know?

Does he want to move back in together right a way or something? Or was it something like I want to come home etc?

Abbey