I did as you said and, wow, if only there were some way to get her to read and understand this!
I need to break her addiction but only she can do it.
Unbelievable!
Sadly, you can't teach an adulterer. All you can do is land little "truth darts" every now and again.
Once I did the research, and really began to understand that affairs are an ADDICTION, and the people in them ADDICTS, everything else began to make sense. THIS is why people throw away careers, and ministries, and marriages, and relationships. It's what made an otherwise sane, intelligent female astronaut drive across country, from TX to FL, wearing an adult diaper, rather than have to make bathroom stops so she could get there sooner to "avenge her man."