All of us who have been through the wars here are jaded in some respect, some more than others. That doesn't give us the right or even obligation to pass that jadedness on to the newcomers.
Bworl,
I don't share my "jadedness." I share my experience and my judgment, for however much they are worth. Sadly, I'm right more often than I'm wrong. I sincerely wish it weren't so.
DCB -- like all posters -- are free to glean what they will (or won't) from that experience and judgment. I do feel led to share what I do; I'm sorry you disagree so strongly. All I've encouraged him to do is to verify independently, one way or another; I'm not sure why that is such a controversial stance. Everything that I advocate is backed up by the best infidelity authors/researchers/counselors out there. It may not be a unanimous opinion (more like 60/40), but it's hardly radical.
