When did you decide to reconcile?

[4luv]

How did you know you could attempt reconciliation with the WAS after an affair? This has been a year of hurt and lies. With all the WAS script "I am not happy", "I just don't want to be married anymore" and not being there for our family has really been hard. I have prayed for the day when my husband would open his heart and want to work on our marriage; however, how were you able to step towards your WAS? I am so scared that it is not genuine...how do you know when they are REALLY ready to put in the work. Tonight he said ALL the right things but I haven't decided on what to do. I want his actions to show it.