feel like giving up - pt 2

[luvless]

Yeah guys...in CA you cannot lock your spouse out of the home unless there is physical abuse.

I do believe he can stop the automatic deposits of his paycheck but the court will order (whenever that will be weeks later) for him to pay.

I've asked an attorney and he can be put out once I file.

[idontunderstand]

(((Luvless)))

I can't imagine what you are going through. My own sitch is disentigrating right before my very eyes. I have been very needy on the board today. I'm not where you are at, but can feel myself heading there.

Hold your head high because you have handled yourself with much dignity. I know you are hurting like all of us are. You seem to have a better handle on it than I do! I am working on my attitude all the time.

Just know - even though I don't post much (I don't really feel qualified to tell people what to do - I don't know myself!) I do follow your sitch and your progress and commend you on your growth and your ever upbeat attitude.

Hang in there! You are the better person and your kids will know and respect this.

That's what I'm hoping for myself!

God bless

[luvless]

((((( IDU ))))))

thank you for that!

[Onthemountaintop]

Luvless,

You mentioned you expect him to get evil. Do you believe that he is an evil person, or is this just the rut he has been in for the last year or so?

The reason I ask is that divorce mediation may reduce the conflict a lot. If you expect a tough time, then I think a court room would scare anyone. If mediation doesn't work (arguing, etc), then you could go to court. At the very least, maybe there are some things that you could do cooperatively, and leave the bigger things for court. I'm sure some people go reluctantly, but mediation is more likely to get what is best for the kids and both parents - and that means less resentment and less trying to punish each other.

I'm sorry - I still have hope that somewhere deep inside is a man that loves you. I hope that it comes out before it is too late.

[luvless]

I still have hope that somewhere deep inside is a man that loves you. I hope that it comes out before it is too late.

not more than me....

no...I do not think my H is evil but he is so angry and spiteful right now. He will try to punish me. What I don't understand is why? I would never be that way with him. I don't understand where his anger comes from.

Luv

[TrentC]

luvless:

Here's a sample of some of the book I was talking about in our conversation in the alt:

http://sserenity.wordpress.com/2008/07/02/abandonment-wound-healing-some-of-andersons-techniques/

[Gardener]

Luv,

luvless:

Here's a sample of some of the book I was talking about in our conversation in the alt:

http://sserenity.wordpress.com/2008/07/02/abandonment-wound-healing-some-of-andersons-techniques/

This is by far THE BEST book I've read this year.

I'm sorry for your pain.
My vote is get the baddest-ass lawyer in town, file, and kick his ass to the curb!

[luvless]

I'm sorry for your pain.
My vote is get the baddest-ass lawyer in town, file, and kick his ass to the curb!

It's my only choice!

[CityGirl]

Ok - you need to laugh (just for a minute) like you did last night.

I was down today and remembered how we laughed.

((Luv))

Win.

[TrentC]

This is by far THE BEST book I've read this year.

I am inclined to agree; I think this should almost be required reading for the LBS.