First off... do NOT meet him ALONE. Have a friend with you to run intercept if he tries to get "snippy" or whatever again.. he's a LIAR and he has NO RIGHT to complain if you plan a birthday on his work days... he really had NO RIGHT to get pissed with that... entitlement in him is as bad as it is with Passenger's husband.
The first question is... How do you plan on managing his activities to ensure you can trust him?
Cell phone records, internet access, etc... Full transparency on him is a MUST, particularly since he's not living at home.
But what would that entail? I am sure he can easily work around you.
I honestly would send him to IC and FT ALONE for a few months to see if he jumps through those hoops... don't budge an INCH for him... let HIM divorce bust for a while eh?
I don't know about this meeting in person stuff... I know he can think better in an email but SO can YOU.
Did it ever occur to you that his sudden reconcilliation may be because you have a new business going now and he might just see you as a big $$$ ?
Think about that... I honeslty don't trust him one BIT... and he HAS been monitoring your business startup...
