The Good Soil Of Love

[Dr LOve]

Wow CL...Slow but sure...

After our dance lesson on Saturday, my W accompanied me for clothes shopping. My pattern is to go once a year, and buy a shirt or two, and maybe a pair of pants (always the same brand). Since dancing, I have bought more colorful shirts, but pants that were still conservative. My W partnered with a helpful salesperson, and I surrendered to their feedback. I bought over $750 worth of bright shirts, a half dozen pants, tighter fitting jeans, and a suit with matching pants. My W was impressed that I hung in there, and didn't whine about leaving. She says that someone as healthy and youthful looking as I am for my age (thanks to dancing) should buy clothes that complement that.

This is Great Cl. I have done the same thing (but a little while ago). YOU and I are NOT the same Men we used to be so why Dress that way?
As long as we are doing it for ourselves and not just because it is what our wives would like. You listened to her “advise” and were open to it.

She keeps writing and telling me how proud she is of me with the Hustle Formation team.

This is a hard one buddy. Everyone (and even DBing) says not to be needy. AND I don’t think we are anymore, but Man I know it sure felt great when my Wife told me how proud she was that I was not only going back to school but college.(where I never went before).
I am sure you felt the same way I did.
It just goes to show you how much more this “praise” means when it is not expected or “needed”

We took the dog for a walk in the park over the weekend. I could never get my W to doing anything physical before (except yoga).

I see this as her way of “getting out of her comfort zone” She is trying... Like my wife actually getting up to give me a kiss goodbye the other day. She is not the kissy / huggy type so I knew she was making an effort to get out of her “comfort Zone”

She mentioned to me that she has made peace with her childhood and emotionally distant father.

You got me here guy, It must have felt good to you. To have your wife take responsibility for herself.
I am still waiting but I know some day it will happen

We joined our dance teachers and fellow students at the Salsa venue over the weekend. I'm not used to socializing with my W in public with a group, beyond family or dance classes. She had a great time, and they seemed to enjoy her fun personality and outspoken comments. I realized that my W and I, when together, need to connect with expressive artistic people (such as ballroom dancers) who appreciate personalities such as my W's, and where my W could be herself.
CL

Very nice CL, Yes we need to find ways that we can connect with our wives. But we need to find ways that are honest to ourselves also.
No disrespect to your “hobby” but I just cannot get into that dancing with the stars that my wife likes to watch. And if I did try to sit there with her to “connect” I would be dishonest with her and myself.
Yes computers seem a way AND now that she is starting her Gym visits again to lose weight... She told me that on her camping trip with her GF’s last week end that she went on a 3 mile hike. I told her how impressed I was that she has come that far from not wanting to dance because of getting too exhausted to now hiking. So here is another way we can connect. Maybe take some trips out to the coast and do a little hiking. I can get into that even though with my leg it is a little slow going it is still getting out.

Take care buddy but remember. The world revolves around cycles. EVERYTHING is in cycles, The tides, The seasons, Women... (Ok sorry for that one)... But unfortunately good positive times like this will give away to a not so positive time. Both you and I need to remember that when that “bad time” arrives that another good one is right around the corner so we can’t let the bad ones affect us negatively.