Countdown - It's been a week since H announced that the affair is over and that he wants to R.
Had a business meeting with H today. The poor guy is starting to feel sick as well (this bronchitis is sweeping through the whole family).
H gave me some utility bills pertaining to his apartment and said that maybe he could submit his last flight ticket to see OW as a business expense...he was working there after all (what work...servicing a client?...lets not go there). I said "No way, I don't even want to see that bill". He said "Why does it matter anymore? OK...OK...I suspected that you may feel this way. I'll just pay it with my money".
Fine...you do that.
Since he brought up the subject of OW, I said that I would be willing to send her a business letter terminating our services hosting her website. H said that it's already taken care of. Our IT guy is contacting her and transferring the site to another provider. Good...he took care of that.
I also told him that we need to talk about our finances and right now it's kind of complicated since we don't know for sure what's happening with the two of us. He said "but we agreed that we will take it slow". I said I know we did, but that we have to deal with some of the financial issues in the mean time. He said "I'm reading the books that you gave me" (After the affair and one more). Great, I'm happy. Oh...and he kept calling me sweetie the whole time.
Oh and another thing. OW's H called me this morning....do I want this? He actually upsets me when he talks about his W and what she is telling him about the affair, and her depression...and how she keeps thinking about my H. I don't know... I guess there is this morbid curiosity on my part to know how they are doing. I'm thinking that if they are doing well there is less chance that she will contact H. But they will be going through up & downs as we will and it will probably just make me upset and insecure. Hopefully he will stop calling once things settle. I think that it makes OW H nervous that my H is not moving back home right away.
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
