I'm very happy to read that grandpa is doing better and is being moved out of the ICU. He's still not out of the woods, but he's making progress.
As for your wife, sounds like she's not a happy camper and I wonder if it's because she's not the center of the universe right about now.
I have to agree w/Jack...you are so much better at this than I would have been.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Spent the majority of the day at the hospital yesterday. Grandma was alert and talking and eating. They were able to get him up to take a few steps too.
Didn't go today but spent some time today talking to my wife through IM. I let her initiate. Mostly about stuff going on with her cousin, but the conversation led in a different direction. I was able to express some of the work I've done on myself, but not in an overtly "Hey I've changed" way. While she didn't acknowledge that she's noticed any changes in me, she did say that she was glad that I was able to look back and learn from my mistakes.
It really hit me after reading what I wrote, how much different I am today than I used to be. I feel damn good.
It's so great to hear that you're feeling good about yourself . It sounds like the 180s are working for YOU...and I guess that's the whole idea.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Just know that I am taking cues from your sitch...I'm learning a lot just reading your thread buddy.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Grandma was alert and talking and eating. They were able to get him up to take a few steps too.
Oops. I meant Grandpa. At least he won't read this to see I called him Grandma. He would be thrilled.
Eric, I'm glad I could be of help in some way. I don't always feel I'm able to give good advice because there are days I feel unsure of what I'm doing myself.
D- Sorry I haven't posted to you much through Grandfather's health crisis. I've been so busy with the girls-just barely time to catch some sleep at night. I'm so glad Grandpa is doing better! Sounds like there's been some good communication/interaction with your wife, too!
You have come a long way! Ever steady! I think you've gotten so good at patience and letting things just be, when needed. And enjoying the good moments and having compassion!
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You're still here and working on things aren't you? More than a year later? That's patience my friend!
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Not much going on. Spent 2 hours IM'ing with my wife last night. We had a lot of laughs. Had a small positive. My FIL, BIL, and son sing in a chorus. In May they will be attending a convention an hour and a half from here. They will be going down on Friday, performing on Saturday and then coming home Saturday night. My wife is going down with them. That is her weekend to have the kids so she was thinking about taking the girls too. Last night she said she was thinking about the convention and suggested the girls stay with me and then to come down for the concert on Saturday. I told her that sounded good. It was nice that she invited me.
. It sounds like the 180s are working for YOU...and I guess that's the whole idea.