I haven't posted (on here) in a week. Sorry. Lots going on. Packing, began moving boxes over to my brother's house.
Had a mini-crisis last wk, when I checked our joint checking & savings. H had been withdrawing large amts. from the cking & the savings, $400 a pop. One was from an ATM in Las Vegas. So I was right about him being on vacation.
I emailed L & she asked how much was he taking, (about $1,500 since Mar. 15) & she wrote back that only thing I can do about him taking out large amounts of money is to file a complaint for divorce with restraining orders. Nice. At least only 1/2 my $ is in there. But the cash acct., the $ my mom left me, I need to close that ASAP. My fault partly b/c I have not gotten S agrmt. sent back sooner.
So then I saw he deposited $450, & told her I didn't want to do it yet. It totally made me sick But if more comes out I'm forced to do something.
Right now, though, I'm feeling kicked in the stomach. I emailed my L asking if we can somehow negotiate the house value $ & she didn't reply. She just emailed it back to me today with the 2009 (much lower) value amt.
Now I realize I may be naive about this, but that seems rude. It really hurt me - like she can't even pick up the phone or take time to email me back. Just this msg: "please review the attached and confirm that I may send it to his attorney.thanks."
So, I'll get $8K for the house I've pd. on for 11 yrs. If we had done this in '09, his payout would have been $15,200. I can't blame H for the bad housing mkt. but that just twists the knife. It kills me but I chose to not keep the house, & that is the right decision for me. Lucky for H, unlucky for me. What are you gonna do?
So, once I tell L the S agrmt. is OK, send it, that's it. It's all done except for the dissolution court date. Unless H challenges anything it. Don't know why he would, most everything's in his favor.
I'm really feeling down and alone right now. Guess I need more hand holding than my L can give. I did my best to try & pick someone competent I could trust. My C said she sounds very competent. It's just a very cold world, that's how it feels. I will try to call a friend or my sister.
Meanwhile, H is supposed to be doing the taxes & Apr. 15 is looming near. Guess I have to email him to check on this - I am supposed to approve before he sends. Hating my life right now. Sorry. Hugs to all.
