Well, I think your W is certainly playing games with you. Don't allow yourself to be her tool in bed. Having sex is not always a "good thing"....as you might think. She used you, plain & simple, and even though it might be difficult to say no to sex,try to remember that it is not "you" that she is thinking about while doing it. Some LBH's think it is a good sign if their W initiates sex,but not necessarily.

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She emailed me this morning and said that she doesn't want to throw in the towel, but she wants to separate, that she needs space. I told her that I will give her space and that I appreciate her not wanting to thrown in the towel. I asked her how she wanted to do this. She replied 'IDK', so I offered up some suggestions for her to think about. I told her that it's her decision and she needs to do what's best for her. So, she just replied back again, I don't know how to do it.


Now here you are being too "helpful". Why are you allowing her to make all these decisions by asking her how does she want to do it? And,stop telling her how you appreciate her for not throwing in the towel.

She seems awful silly to be as old as she is! Anyway, don't try to help her find a solution...if you don't want a S. Tell her that when she figures out what she wants to do that she can run it by you....if you are still around & interested.

She wants her space and time so that she can play around and see what happens with OM. If that doesn't work out, then she'll have you waiting in the wings.


Last edited by sandi2; 04/13/10 09:38 PM.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!