Ok, I'm liking that short and sweet version. You are all so smart! My brain kept rattling around trying to make excuses and make sure I wasn't hurtful to him.
Yes, becasue he was so careful about your feelings when he had an affair and left you!
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It's all about me and my emotional core.
Which he doesn't need to know.....it's none of his business!
It should be MORE his business than OUR business, and that should always be the truth.
Open door = pain, agony and a repeat performance of the past.
Shut door = losing someone completely who has been the most significant person in my life for half my life.
Neither one is a good option is it? Which would be the lesser of two evils? Decisions are NOT my strong suit.
Criminy. Quit trying to get other people to do this work for you. It is YOUR job. But hey, if you aren't ready to make the decision, THAT'S OK TOO. Just don't make a decision by default because you haven't decided.
"Gabe, this week I've learned that for sex to work for me, even very hot sex, it needs to occur in the context of a loving, honest, respectful, and exclusive R. We don't have that. Right now I don't feel that we ever could. So, no more bootie calls, and I need my space back, soon."
"Gabe, those first hot bootie calls morphed my mind from brains into fruitie balls. But now a soulless bootie call feels more like a duty call in some sad patootie stall. Feels like kooties y'all. So, best get used to my ain't-gonna-be-more-bootie wall. Sorry you can't F-U me doll."
I read a few posts from your guys' threads (MichelleLT, VirtuallyHandsome, Gardener, mishka and a few more) and I just wanted to comment that I admire how you guys are doing so well after D - some quite recent. I wish I could be like you guys sometime soon.
I'm also curious to know what helped you guys get through it. Sorry Mishka if I'm hijacking your thread, my thread's here:
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
