Is it really like a drug? I have read about it and read many of your posts. No wonder they are so f'd up.
I know in the grand scheme of things, I haven't been doing this very long. I am always having trouble monitoring the results as they say. I know I am not detached yet. Closer than I was a few months ago, but not close where I need to be. Really, I guess you are or you aren't.
Is complete detachment really the "secret"? I have pulled back and don't pursue, and it was working. Now the next shoe has dropped. Pull back all the way and see if she responds. She's still in the house but not really there. Not the wife I've known for 11 years anyway. Nothing to lose. I know what I have to do. I have done what I have been told so far. It took me too long in some instances and I know now's not the time to chicken out.
It does help to vent my frustrations here, eventhough they are basically the same as everyone else's. Thank you all.
pigskin, you have posted the most on my thread and our families are similar with age of kids and so forth. I do value your opinion. You give great advice and need to start following that great advice. You sound like a great person who is having trouble letting go just as I am. I am praying for you and hope God answers those prayers the way you want him to. I hope he answers mine the way I want. Human nature. We have to listen, though. Sometimes he speaks so quietly.
