Husband in Crisis - what do I do?

[flowmom]

I think it's important to have a L who you trust. Definitely interview new ones if you're not feeling confident with yours.

I hope you will try thought-stopping when you think about your H. We don't have to let them colonize our brains! We don't have enough time and energy to make the changes that we need to make *and* focus on them. Bit by bit I am starting to realize this.

From moment to moment we can say "no" to the stories that hurt us (we are not loveable, we are victims, our lives have no hope) and we can say "yes" to the stories that give us hope (we are creating our future, we have overcome adversity in the past, we have strength).

I'm feeling a teeny bit stronger today and I hope that you can surf off that feeling too. I don't want to be stuck in being stuck. I'm not willing to suffer indefinitely. No one can make the changes that I need to make. Even H can't make my life better unless I am willing to do the work to address how I got into a situation where one confused, selfish man could trash my entire life.

(((Destiny)))