To most people a hotel room equates to something more than talking and watching tv. The two of you have such terrible problems IMO adding mixed signals to the list is destructive.
You are still riding all your happiness on your W. Quite honestly, you seem to blame everybody for everything (custody, lost paperwork and so on).
You and your W as individuals need major C'ing before anything can happen. Without that the issues that are very deep and very severe will only be "fixed" on the surface.
Goals are important in your own life but right now you need immediate solutions and your head is far too clouded with your W and her issues to even begin to find any.
This R sounds so very unhealthy. Maybe it is hard for you to see it because you are so wrapped up in it but to an outsider, it seems nothing short of destructive in just about every way.
