Pup, Fair enough. My co-dependent personality has me questioning much of what I do and my motivation to the point of leaving me paralyzed at times.
I know now that the seeds of W's selfish behavior were there many years ago. W's searching for new careers, hobbies, etc. has gone on throughout our M and I have always supported her. I thought she did the same of me. However she now holds against me the very activities that she encouraged me to participate in.
Naive? Absolutely. What I took as unconditional love was not.
I realize that we train those we love how to treat us. I allowed my W to verbally abuse me often without calling her on it. She continues to do so to me and the kids. I have been working to GAL and stay away from W. Calling her on rude, disrespectful behavior is what I need to do now.
