F, you are doing so good with this DB thing. Most posters here did not get on the stick as fast as you did.
In fact, there are so many still here who ask for advice, ad nauseum, and won't take it; then come back whining some more, more advice ignored....
I quit reading their threads because it is so painful to see all the good advice be ignored, along with the inevitable excuses and back-sliding.
I mean, really, no one said this would be easy. It's the hardest thing I ever did, and my M was not saved. Yours may not be saved either, but you will be ok.
And you will be ok because you at least tried to save your marriage. You will be ok because you are not some lying, cheating, betrayer who is caught up in some lame-@ss new-agey bullsh!t. You will be ok because you are not trying to justify some sh!tty bevavior.
