Moving on....or at least trying to

[ImprovedRomeo]

GF, sorry to hear about your sitch. It sounds like you've decided to let go because you don't believe he'll change - even though you feel nothing good will come from D? Is there anything he can do at this point to change your mind?

I selfishly ask because my WAW probably feels the same way as you and we're headed for a D. However, being in CA too the laws are so f'd up that I feel I have to D her before we're considered 10+years of marriage and then I'll really be screwed.

Deep down I still want her to come back but my previous 180s (and I've backslided at times over the years) or my LRT have done really nothing.