I do have a situation that happened last night that I'm not sure about. I was watching some TV in bed, already brushed my teeth, getting ready to go to bed, and she comes in to go to the bathroom to get ready for bed herself, afterward, she comes right to our bed and gets in. She asked me if I wanted to watch the United States of Tara episode that was on our DVR from earlier. So, we are watching that and with about 10 minutes left, she asks if we can watch the rest of it tomorrow. Then, she rolls over to face me and starts to initiate intimacy. I am really unsure at this point if she's just desperate and using me, but at the same time, I have learned over the years that most women won't just share themselves for the sake of it, that there has to be some emotional connection or feeling. And at the same time, I am thinking that any intimacy and closeness that she wants to have with me is a good thing. So, we fool around for a while, no sex though. Afterward, she giggles and thanks me. We lay there for a few minutes and out of nowhere, she says that she thinks she's going to sleep in the other room. I say that's ok, but I'm just curious why. She says that she's not sure she should have done that. I tell her that it's totally ok for her to go to the other room. So, at this point, it's like 12:30 and I go to sleep. I notice that her laptop is back on, from the glow under the door. So, at about 3:00, she comes and wakes me up and asks if she can go ahead and sleep in our bed, that the dog was bothering her and she couldn't get comfy. So, how should I read all of that?
It sounds to me like she was horny, pure and simple, and whatever the two of you did, it only revved her up for more, which they went to go get online via cyber. After she was satisfied with that, she came back to bed.
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I am really unsure at this point if she's just desperate and using me, but at the same time, I have learned over the years that most women won't just share themselves for the sake of it, that there has to be some emotional connection or feeling.
While I think this is generally true, it's not ALWAYS true (forget how old your wife is, but women in their 40s may be more visual and more highly-"sexed for sex's sake" than younger women), and it's definitely not always the case in EAs/PAs. "Tagging" your betrayed spouse, to keep them close, is quite common.
