embracing change

[flowmom]

Thanks for sharing your experience BBJ. That really reminds me of where we got stuck in MC. H simply "couldn't" accept my faults even though he recognized that I constantly worked on accepting him as he was with his not-trivial faults. He didn't recognize that he was making a choice to compare me to some artificial ideal. I think he generally developed a very unrealistic idea of M and parenthood because he became very isolated during the years of depression and didn't get feedback from his peers.

It's interesting that your H is turning around.