I have been doing a lot of reading on manipulation. I can see that this is something that has gone on for a LONG time in my relationship with husband. This is what I will focus on ...not being manipulated any more. All of the articles I am reading are very true to my personality even though I tried to portray a strong stance with husband while we were dating. But over time, I taught husband how much he could get away with...it was very subtle but after 9 or 10 years dating it can happen over time and I didn't even realize it.

I am learning that manipulation is really all about control. Husband has to have control. That is why he is choosing not to call me. He has control over responding and what he will say if communication is strictly through text or email. If he called, I could ask him about something (i.e. phone call from OW) that he doesn't want to talk about. This is all control.

I hope that I can change my behaviors.

Me: 28
H: 32
1st marriage 4 both
1 1/2 year married
2gether for 9
1S: 6months
1stepson: 2yo