Welcome aboard, Pandora.

Someone suggested the book The Journey from Abandonment to Healing by Susan Anderson; I'm reading it and it is very good.

If Understanding the Midlife Crisis by Peter O'Connor is the owner's guide to the MLCing spouse, then I think Anderson's book should be the owner's guide to the LBS spouse.

I posted this on your other thread, but it's an article about how to work on mindfulness and taking your mind off of your worries:

http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200810/the-art-now-six-steps-living-in-the-moment

Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."