Flowmom, did you ever get the chance/decide to apologize for not being able to keep him from getting burned when he tried to work it out?
Not sure what you're referring to OTMT . The only time he tried to work it out IMO was during MC, but even then he was showing up but not shifting or doing the work. He wouldn't agree to spend time with me other than starting to watch TV together occasionally. He refused to take responsibility for his grudges and bitterness about things that happened many years ago. He didn't see the importance of accepting that I have some faults that are hard to change (procrastination). He didn't see the importance of taking risks and making himself vulnerable.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
. The only time he tried to work it out IMO was during MC, but even then he was showing up but not shifting or doing the work. He wouldn't agree to spend time with me other than starting to watch TV together occasionally. He refused to take responsibility for his grudges and bitterness about things that happened many years ago. He didn't see the importance of accepting that I have some faults that are hard to change (procrastination). He didn't see the importance of taking risks and making himself vulnerable.
