There are some major red flags, like his wife's unwillingness to hug him,
I didn't always want to hug my wife.
I am now using FB a bit, but that all started around the same time I thought D was inevitable.
I think if you're looking for something, you'll find something. It is in the interpretation that can lay the blessing or punishment. Keep your eyes open, yes. But if you think you're safe, show her the man you and she have always dreamed of and you used to be in many ways. Even if there is an affair, she needs to want you to come back.
It's a physiological fact that people in affairs are largely chemically BLOCKED from "seeing the man (she) always dreamed of." Their brain is awash in PEAs and it distorts their perceptions and ability to receive the betrayed spouse's attempts to meet their emotional needs.
Look, I'm not trying to argue with you OTMT; this is all MOOT if a little intel turns up nothing, and then DCB can have some peace of mind. But in 15,000 posts here over several years, I have yet to ever have someone say later "I wish I had been LESS aggressive with the advice you gave me," but have -- sadly -- had dozens that said "I wish I would have been more wary, sooner."
Better to be overdressed than underdressed, as it were.
