Just found out she already filed

[flowmom]

big hugs SR. That is quite a bomb to absorb. Yes D is just a piece of paper, but every milestone towards it has an emotional impact. I really like your plan. Print it out and refer to it often! It will keep you on track. I hope that you can work on an IRL support network -- it sounds like you don't have much of a community. Reaching out to other people will help you move forward. And take care of yourself as much as possible.