Pandora...I can only echo what J3B said. There literally is NOTHING you can do to make him come back to you. We all start off where you are. The best we can tell you is what works here. You probably already know what DOESN'T work (begging,pleading, etc.)

The ONLY thing that you can do and the ONE thing that works best....is.......(drumroll): Do what Jack said above. Start to do things for you and YOU ALONE. Anything you do to bring about a reaction in HIM...or do to change you to WIN HIM BACK..will ultimately fail.

The best advice I can give you to is get a hold of Dr. Gray's book, Venus and Mars: Starting Over, and start a grieving process and realize that what you had has changed and mourn that loss. By doing this, you let go and begin to learn how to detach. It's the only way that I know that may hasten THIS:

Quote:

- "you're everything i ever wanted in a wife (now) and i know i'm going to kick myself one day for doing this"


The quicker you get going on living your life, letting go of your marriage, adjusting to H's MLC, you will be on the road to a good place. This does not resolve overnight and as one of my friends posted to me when I started here, "this looks like MLC and can take a long time." A lightening bolt doesn't come down on them sending them back to you with flowers, weepy and acclaiming, "honey, I'm home, what a mistake I made."

Get busy living.

Supporting you.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;