Since your W's A never made it to PA levels, that you know of, perhaps you do still have something on which to rebuild your M someday, but of course that would require your W to come out of her fog, realize her OM fantasy is doing nothing but hurting her life, and approach you about reconciliation.
My W steadfastly refused to end her R with OM, did advance it to a PA, throwing it in my face over and over, which essentially destroyed any chance of ever reconciling. Now we're battling in court over our kids. Not good.
