IDU..
I am in the same boat... I told her the same thing, she will not leave either. In fact sleeps in the same bed still after I told her that..
They dont take you serious..
The only thing for me is that I dont want to leave, and it is very important to me that the kids know ( when they find out) that this was mom's choice.
I want to make sure that I did the cool thing and stay calm.

I would remain there, and relax take care of the kids and you..
Dont show that you are defeated....

In fact, tonight I will be taking the kids and myself for a long bike ride. Weather is getting better..
As I have learned from this site, take care of you and kids first.
Dont worry about what she does.
Its funny how I can give these thoughts but implimenting them for myself are tougher..

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ILYBNILWY ( Dec 2009)
Sleeping separate rooms April 8 2010.
Sep as of 07/14/2010
W moving out 07/31/2010
No OM confirmed ( yet)