This is gonna take some time. I am really working hard on this. the situation with SD8 is going to be the hardest. I love the kids so much and I want to have alot more time with each one of them.
Does "SD8" stand for 8 year old step daughter?
yessir. She has signed away the right to her. I don't think she is in the frame of mind to do that. I can fix it but she has to be willingly and clear her head because i'm her medical POA. Any document signed without me there is null and void because I can prove she is still under doctor's care.
WHen she went to visit SD8 (when she didn't come back) paternal grandmother tricked her into signing her rights away. Stating if she didn't allow her to adopt her CPS would not let her have unsupervised visits with her.
When they had us attend parenting classes, psychological and neurologic exams, stated we must both find work and a place, IC stated ordered counseling, and I have to take drug tests, go to anger management counseling and alot of stuff. They were attempting reconciliation. My mother (former foster care and cps social worker and a licensed counselor with 2 degrees in the field) told us we could get her back.
It was not until she went down there over new years break and then at the beginning of march that all of a sudden her views change.
The last time I went to court in OCTOBER with WAW. Paternal grandmother let her have it. How she was a bad mother. How she would fight her tooth and nail to not let her have SD8 back. Just totally brow beating her.
I know that was going on down there because she made WAW leave two days early but then states if she gives her the rights to SD8 she could go to college for free. Which is an out right lie.
WAW public defender just wanted teh case over with and QUICKLY DREW UP DOCUMENTS for them to sign. Our IC counselor did not want this. WAW parents did not want this and WAW did not want this until she was pretty much coerced and brow beaten and told she would never see S8 again if she did not
A) sign over the rights B) leave her family behind
She wants WAW to come down there so she can pretty much babysit SD8 while she gets to claim her on tax returns, all types of tax breaks and credits (she was getting over 1000 a month in foster care money and benefits that would stop if WAW had joint custody)
The state wanted to help WAW keep her rights (unsupervised) and let SD8 stay with PATERNAL GRANDMOTHER until we got stable. Then they would review the case and WAW and I could bring her home.
The case is not final and WAW was just crying. It is not in her benefit to move there. It's a small military base with limitted jobs. She won't be able to continue getting her benefits and medicine for her epilepsy and since she cannot drive she'd soley have to depend on this woman to get her around which I know she won't.
When the court and all 3 lawyers (sd8 has a lawyer too) told paternal grandmother to let WAW talk to sd8 back in october? she blatantly refused. it was 2 months before she would let her do that.
Now she's playing hardball knowing that WAW wants SD8 and is trying to convince her if she gets CPS out of the picture she will let her see SD8 anytime but is putting all these ridiculous stipulations on her in order to see her.
WAW knew I would get pissed and expected me to curse and throw things but I walked out of the hotel and sat outside smoking cigarettes.
WAW says she has alot of questions about this. right now I'm too mad to discuss it with her any further. So I'm just not speaking about it
waw 36 (spiritual covenant and common law marriage)me 32 together 13 mos. Bomb dropped march 2nd 2010
children SD (8) S (10) S (3) need help from anyone with my sitch
