flowmom, Help me out, here. After reading your post, the article itself, and some of the subsequent posts, I think I'm not quite getting it. Is the "Fantasy Relationship" the fantasy that one's spouse thinks (or hopes or expects) that you - or your relationship - should be, or is it referring to the potential trap of an EA fantasy relationship?
Gardener, I think that the article refers to comparing a real spouse to some imagined ideal, not to an EA with a real person.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
