Faith without works... (my new thread)

[james217]

even though I'm just journaling to myself (cause I don't do everything the way the vets say I should)

I See progress.

Progress with me:

Lets look at the goals I have set for myself.

Weight:

I have dropped over 15 pounds

Job:

No job yet, but I'm still setting up interviews and applying.

Anger:

I'm not near as mad as I have been

Health:

I have not had a seizure in about a week now! Now that I know about the diabetes I know how to control it. I still must see the neurologist and the cornea specialist (friday for that) but things seem to be going well.

PMA:

I am really working on that. I feel as though I have weak moments but I'm really really doing better.

Children:

This is gonna take some time. I am really working hard on this. the situation with SD8 is going to be the hardest. I love the kids so much and I want to have alot more time with each one of them.

Getting a life:

I have been walking and reading and doing things to keep me busy.

I think I'm doing pretty good and I'm in a much better spot than I was in my old thread.

Goals with WAW:

Respect:

I have been more open to her thoughts feelings and opinions and she has been more open and confiding things in me

Space:

I no longer consistently text, leave voicemails or call WAW. She now calls me more. This is a major change from her not speaking to me at all a few months ago.

Affair bust:

My technique of calling every guy seemed to work. WAW is more focused on getting herself together. It has been over a week since she has gotten on a chatline or called her one PA (proof found) or her EA's.

Validate:

I validate her feelings. I allow her to talk when she is expressing herself. When she offers input, I offer it but not in a condescending way. I make sure my voice is relaxed and calm.

Affection:

She has been extremely affectionate lately. I can tell the difference. There's a great passion there.

Temper:

I do not blow my stack. I think about my actions and words. After Saturday's incident a few weeks ago, I did not think we would ever be alone together again. She was alone with me again. She laid up under me. We cuddled and watched shows. So much positiivity. She smiles at me and compliments me as well.

Kind words:

I did not do this enough either. I always felt she knew how I thought she looked or felt. So I have been more complimenting, funny and light hearted. She compliments me alot. We joke and laugh and flirt. She no longer tells me to leave her alone or what I say hurts her feelings. She is talking to me.

I think things are improving but I'm still being realistic. She might possibly move although she did talk about us coming back together (I did not bring it up) and working together to fix repair and restore our lives.