Just this evening I asked if W would be available for a counseling appointment Friday afternoon and she agreed. Is this good or just cover? We're also going to attend church again as a family since I quit my 2nd job. I hope that's noy just for looks until my sons confirmation next month.
It could be either, DCB -- impossible to say. This is only one example of (and I'm sorry to keep beating the same horse) why good intel is invaluable.
Just a quick example from my own sitch: i overheard my wife talking to her brother on the phone one day (I couldn't help overhearing, since I was eavesdropping ) , telling him that "I'm only going to marriage counseling so Mom and Dad can't say that I didn't try. I have no intention of working at it; we're DONE!" This brother-in-law knew his sister was having an affair, had had one himself (that led to the end of his marriage), and so she felt she could confide in him.
Now, would it affect my strategy, one way or another, if I knew the MC sessions were just a sham? Absolutely! For starters, it wasn't covered by our insurance, the sessions were very expensive, and we were under severe financial stress and couldn't afford the extra expenditure. If she were SERIOUS about trying to work at our issues, then you make it a priority and you juggle as needed -- "pebbles in a jar." But if not, I decided that there were better things to use our family's finances for. "End your affair, and I'd be happy to go to MC with you to discuss any and all issues in our marriage, including my own."
) , telling him that "I'm only going to marriage counseling so Mom and Dad can't say that I didn't try. I have no intention of working at it; we're DONE!" This brother-in-law knew his sister was having an affair, had had one himself (that led to the end of his marriage), and so she felt she could confide in him.