The OM was her boss for about 3 years and they became friends. She always used the "he is a good mentor" thing as a reason to keep talking to him even though they no longer worked in the same part of the company. They have been meeting for lunch for the last 3 years "as friends" and I feel like a total idiot for not suspecting anything before the bomb. So, they have known each other for a total of 6 years. She has grown horribly attached to him.
I have left the in-laws alone. The last time I talked to them about our marriage was a year ago.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final