reconciliation after divorce?

[any chance?]

My mistake was putting my career in front of my marriage. I was emotionally neglecting her without even realizing it, being blind as I was. The PA was brief (1 month) and was thoughtless and very stupid, and undoubtedly very painful. The major turn in our marriage happened about 2 years ago during a period of major stress in my life and career, when I was overwhelmend and not paying attention. I believe I know why our R crumbled, and have intentionally made changes to correct that over the past 4-6 months, but don't think W saw these. Her mind was made up, and my changes were too little too late. She has commented on the changes, but I fear the damage is too deep. I do not want this D, but W does, because her feelings for me are gone. Don't know how to fight that. Ideas would be most welcome.