Has this overgrown CHILD said "I am sorry" even ONCE to you yet or is he still full of himself and his entitlement to walk all over people?
Why are you offering him apologies for FREE? Make him WORK for once!
And NO, you shouldn't have let him over to that apartment. That's gonna wake up a whole mess of memories for him... that was a VERY BAD IDEA.
Keep him AWAY from ANYTHING that is a TRIGGER for his AFFAIR... and his MEETING PLACE is CERTAINLY a TRIGGER. how can he get past withdrawal with you sending him to his secret love nest?
Get someone ELSE to fix the stove to SHOW him that HE has been NEGLECTFUL of his obligations. I did that with my wife when she didn't get things done she normally would have. I just got someone ELSE to do it... SHE felt like CRAP, but it was also a good WAKE UP for her.
He is giong to be angry for a while, he's just POUTING... LET HIM.
He's playing a childish game to make YOU feel GUILTY for HIS MESS... and when YOU apologize you FEED HIS SENSE of ENTITLEMENT further. The more you validate his feelings and apologize for mistakes the more JUSTIFIED he FEELS to act like an A$$.
