Regardless of your choice in the end, you will be at peace about it. Good advice her, detach, let God do his work. Find your happy place, validate, not agree with but validate her feelings. Stick to the plan and you will get through this.
On a side note the Bible has in its pages nearly every psychological concept. Including the DB concepts. PMA, turning the check, calling out the sinner, drawing a line in the sand. 180's it is all in there, go figure ! Worded different but still there!
Married:10 years D final 8/28/08 10 minutes is all it took Life goes on and DB was no small part in growing from the Divorce!