I don't understand the childish behavior in not allowing yourself to be served.

Do you think if you avoid this long enough that she will fall in love with you again?

Come on, we're all adults here. Your avoidance of this matter sends only one message to your wife, and it's not the one you think. The message you are sending is, "I don't care what you want and I don't care what you tell me you are feeling. I only care about me and what I want."


You think you are showing evidence of your love and commitment, but what you are really doing is showing evidence of your selfishness and unwillingness to care about her.


Odd. Filing for divorce, shoot, even an actual divorce could not possibly be something that God could not overcome if the two of you are meant to be. But in our human desire to CONTROL and BE IN CHARGE, we refuse to stop trying to control things that are out of our control.


This is not a strategy game CH. You can't win this by out maneuvering your wife.


What about the part of this process where YOU work on YOU and fix the parts about YOU that needed fixing? Or was this ALL your WIFE's fault?


You are showing a lack of faith and a belief in only what YOU can do or control. Is that really where you want to be? Can you see that your FEAR is causing you to approach this in a way that is not consistent with your beliefs?


Blessings,

Bill

Last edited by Bworl; 04/13/10 10:17 AM.
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