wholeagain... i see what you are saying... but I think thats a little different than being in this current situation where H wants out of the marriage so W acts like you know what, me too... so then he comes pursuing... W wouldnt or shouldnt continue to distance herself forever in the relationship

I get what you are saying gucci... I am to that point now... where I understand the phrase "the power in a relationship lies with the person that cares the least"... and I am in a perfect position to do this with H

Yesterday H said something to me like there is a small part of him that wants to try to stay in the M... but the part of me that doesnt want to is much bigger and the part of you that wants us to stay together is much bigger than the part of you that doesnt... and I said thats not true. He said what? the part of you that wants us to stay together is not bigger?? I said no, not anymore. I just left it at that...I have never seen him looked more shocked.. he thinks he has got me pegged...

he has said things many times like "oh we both know you will be waiting up for me" or I said something to him like I just dont think he is someone I want to be married to anymore and he said "oh really? how hard was that for you to say??" ... such a jerk.... but you see where it would prob shock the heck out of him for me to really say that stuff... and stick with it! I have said it before and then came crying like why cant we be together... i was not consistant... so... here it goes... I will now be the one that cares the least... see how that goes

Last edited by Surviving03; 04/13/10 06:26 AM.
Me: 25
H:25
M: 2yrs
T: 4yrs
No Kids
Bomb: 11 Feb 10
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