The first few days for you are going to be HELL... no sugar coating that... this might start to feel like a bomb all over again dealing with this all now in this new environment... but all of this stress and hurt will pass, take it one day or even one moment at a time...
HIDE that hurt though in front of your wife though tbart... always remember your DB skills... its hard to do.. and you will slip up sometimes but the sooner you can get in the routine the better...
Focus on your girls and yourself and remember this : Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional
Me: 25 H:25 M: 2yrs T: 4yrs No Kids Bomb: 11 Feb 10 Newcomers Story