Messed up

[jt2007]

hey OP,
I reread the detachment.
Im kind of at a loss for it though.
I think I understand the concept.
Basically not depending or allowing them to depend on you.
Not "fixing" them...or feel like you need to.

One of the probs I cant understand though is isnt a marriage suppose to be attached?
Not sure I am grasping the disconnect part.

If I care about someone dont I give and allow them to take?
Dont I take what they give also?
Of course this would be in agreement with eachother

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H has always "taken care" of financial. I let him.
I have alway "taken care" of family. He let me.
Its kind of like that was what we did.

Now he turned tables and resents what he let me do.
He has stated this also. And he does take responsibility for that part.
Now Im resenting letting him do all the financial because he resents me for taking care of family and not fiancial.

So... prob right now about "detaching"
My expenses (car..credit..school ..ect...) are all based on his income.
How am I suppose to do that on my own ...if I cant afford what I have based on our past.

I have to finish school..(have that taken care of through grant)
I need my car and he just bought it (2months ago)he is paying for that and my gas and credit.

I feel like Im really dense about this...

Do I give the car back to him?
its something keeping me "attached" to him. Its about $600 payment so no way I can afford that, plus living expenses.

any advice on the detaching that maybe im not understanding?

alt is usually on
Thanks