W still wants separation, need to DB more

[MrBond]

Each goal is different in each sitch. Sorry.

But what you can do is maybe set aside 5 top ones. Then when those are achieved, you move on to the next 5.

After each goal is attained, you increase it's difficulty. For example, if your goal is for your W to sit and watch tv together, once that's reached, change it to your W will have dinner together, then your W will spend an evening together at home, then change it to your W will go on a date with you.

Imagine when you were dating your W for the first time. You didn't automatically invite her to jump in the sack with you (maybe you did, but that's in the past). You started out with coffee...coffee became dinner...dinner became dinner and a movie...etc.

That's how these goals are. After each one is attained, write down what you did to reach them and keep those going. Pretty soon you're not even going to be "trying" any more. They'll become habit.

To put it another way, you're a police officer, so you've done some martial arts training. When you first learn a move, you break it down to its individual parts. Then you practice each move over and over and over again. Do it enough times and it becomes instinctual. You don't even have to think about it, it'll come out automatically.

You start doing the right things and they'll become just as automatic.