Hey there F. Even though I haven't posted here before, I have been following your story since you started and I can tell you that you are doing an awesome job. I must say that at times I found myself pretty emotional about your situation. It's never easy seeing someone go through such a heavy time.

The other posters are right when they say that she will contact. I know from experience. When my WAW first left and I found out she had another man, I told her I didn't want to ever speak to her again. And I meant it. Well she couldn't help it. She phoned me, texted me, and I ignored her. She got upset about it and started calling me a wimp etc but I didn't take the bait. Needless to say, all the advice you have heard is true in many situations. Yes she got nasty and then she got nice. All manipulative tactics that never worked with me.

Although she is not asking me to get back with her, I know she wouldn't anyway. She is too proud and insecure to risk a rejection.

That being said, I just wanted to show from my experience that when you shut the door on her access to you, all of a sudden there is a curiosity inside her that stirs and wonders how you are. Her love for you may even form in her once again, but don't revolve your life around that hope.

Gnosis is right.."get busy living" (that has been my favourite quote for years).


Keep pushing through mate, you are doing brilliantly.


M=31
W=27
S=10
T=8

First bomb: May 2002 Separated, got back together October 2002.
Second bomb: May 2009 Separated May 10 2009