I am a similar sitch too. W has deeper issues with me too. I refuse to leave our home and told her it's not me who wants this. I will say that I have been told by Sandi the same comments. The waw didn't just wake up with these thoughts. It took years probably. I for one am not calling it quits. Patience my friend. I understand it's a tough one and only you can decide how patient.
M 43 W 43 S15 S 12 D 10 ILYBNILWY ( Dec 2009) Sleeping separate rooms April 8 2010. Sep as of 07/14/2010 W moving out 07/31/2010 No OM confirmed ( yet)