Possible EA - sitting on the edge

[BWP]

Left a book I was reading - title is something like 'how to recognize an emotional affair' down in the kitchen when I went to get some water last night.

The next day W says did you leave that stupid book for me.

So I just said 'you're welcome to read my book if want to'. She goes upstairs a little while later and is on the phone within 5 minutes. Here's a question. Do I walk into the room when this is going on and just stand there? What's the play while this goes on?

I've followed through on what I can but it's not getting through to her but I suppose maybe I'm looking at this the wrong way. Nothing will get through to her.

Maybe I've just pissed her off showing her that I know and she's lashing out? Yesterday I did a bunch of laundry. She normally did it but that doesn't mean I shouldn't. She starts in on me about putting the wrong clothes in the dryer.

Tonight, I'm putting laundry away with the hall light on and she's lying with D in bed. I hear turn the light off! I politely respond 'I'm almost done'

Then I go into D room to put away a spare sock and W in front of D says 'Do you mind?" in the most vicious tone. I asked 'who are you talking to' when W says me I responded. 'don't speak to me like that'.

I realize now that I put up with a lot of this venom even before this EA. It seems now when I hear it I realize how unfair it is to speak to someone like this. So at least I've grown a little back bone out of all this