Future, at this point it is not about DB'ing really. Maybe we should all try a bit more honesty sometimes.? I know that when we are deep in the LRT and we think we might have a chance we get kinda stuck in this thinking that being dark and defending boundaries is the way to go. But as the sitch stretches on LRT is no longer doing a bit of good. Maybe approach it like this,
"Wife, I know I have been cold but I wanted my time to get over you. Can we deal with the custody issue like the great parents that we are so that the kids do not get hurt? I don't want my children to resent their mother for taking their Father away from them."
Maybe others can help edit this to suit you better. You are a good guy future, you will do alright!
Thanks so much v1olin. I agree, this isn't about DBing anymore. That's over with now. I did my best and this is where it got me. W's mother tonight was saying how W has always had a tendancy to attack when feeling guilt. Don't I know it!
Nice to know W's mother is still rooting for me. She doesn't think it will do any good to reach out to my W, but she said "why not, you've got nothing to lose." My position is to maintain the 50/50 custody, and she agrees with that.
